Perfection

“We are not meant to be perfect, we are meant to be whole.” –Deepak Chopra

As we attempt to obtain optimal well-being, we start to bring attention to ourselves and our functioning. We may start to notice aspects of ourselves that we might consider inadequate. We may think thoughts like, “I need to control my anger. I need to be more happy. I should not be so negative.” And these thoughts are things to consider. However, the bigger thing to consider when it comes to thoughts of judgement is the goal of non-judgement.

The practice of non-judgement allows us to consider ourselves a whole human being, to consider imperfection as perfection. In everything there is dark and light, good and evil. In nature there are storms and destruction. Being able to accept things for what they are is a great start for us. It is when we stop struggling with how we think things should be and start being more at peace with the way things are, that we open ourselves up to a whole other way of being. A way of being that is more flexible, accommodating, graceful, forgiving, and loving. We don’t assign meaning to situations so quickly. Instead, we sit back and allow things to unfold as they are.

So the goal becomes, “What can I learn about myself in this situation?” Every single thought, feeling, interaction with another being, has a lesson for us. When we start to experience thoughts and feelings that cause us pain or suffering, it is simply an opportunity for us to learn more about ourselves. “What meaning have I assigned to these types of situations that causes me to feel bad at this moment?” We may have a fear of failure. We may have a fear of prospering. We may have a strong desire to always be right. We may not trust other people. Whatever the underlying pattern is, when we open ourselves up to what the situation is trying to teach us, we open ourselves up to growth and transformation.

So please understand we are great beings. We hold truly beautiful gifts inside that we must uncover and share with the world. We must truly understand who we are in order to fully share those gifts. Our “dark sides” are just aspects of ourselves. We cannot isolate are dark qualities. What we do is illuminate them. We acknowledge them and use the opportunities that they bring about to continue our growth.

Peace and Love,

Racquel